tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-639842289348576447.post5939971886711590309..comments2023-09-09T07:37:02.242-05:00Comments on Child of Mary: Forgiving Infidelity, Part 2Mairin :o)http://www.blogger.com/profile/00244567237239774667noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-639842289348576447.post-17657139195316192332009-10-24T21:05:01.718-05:002009-10-24T21:05:01.718-05:00Thank you Janny for the comment. I can understand...Thank you Janny for the comment. I can understand your reaction. I wasn't referring to abuse in anyway. There is nothing forgivable about abuse nor would I ever suggest someone weak for escaping an abusive situation.Mairin :o)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00244567237239774667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-639842289348576447.post-21364800658145314152009-10-23T13:20:32.081-05:002009-10-23T13:20:32.081-05:00"I used to think it was strong to sever a rel..."I used to think it was strong to sever a relationship with someone who hurt me. Now I know that it is weak and cowardly."<br /><br />Not necessarily.<br /><br />While this kind of thing speaks individually to individual hearts, I get a knee-jerk reaction to any blanket generalization like this. Too many peopole use this as a way to punish someone brave enough to finally escape what would be a deadly situation, and to me, THAT's abuse as bad as what the poor person's escaping from.<br /><br />What does one mean when one refers to "being hurt"? Too many women stay with men who beat them because there's something in him they find lovable, and they want to make it work. (And they often die trying.) Too many women stay with men who verbally abuse and denigrate them--who even make them physically sick--because they believe what you've said above. But nowhere anywhere is Christian marriage supposed to be equated with martyrdom; such a thing isn't marriage. It's masochism.<br /><br />Yes, forgiveness is mature and the high road. But please don't leap from that statement, as true as it is, to saying that "severing a relationship with someone who hurt me...is weak and cowardly." Sometimes severing a relationship is the only thing that saves lives, much less souls. Sometimes severing a relationship is the difference between life and death, sanity and insanity...and NO ONE needs to be "guilted" and told they're being cowardly because they're taking a step that may mean life instead of death for them, their children, or any number of people who are affected by abuse, neglect, and violence.<br /><br />JBJannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06725527285837338560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-639842289348576447.post-78284468796807658042009-10-06T19:46:07.113-05:002009-10-06T19:46:07.113-05:00Can someone PLEASE talk about women who cheat on m...Can someone PLEASE talk about women who cheat on men....... As I write this there is a man living in the house God allowed me to purchase for my family...... The agony is unbearable...... Please pray for me that I can endure this cross......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com